After reading the post you linked to I fully agree with your position. I don't read genre Romance for a number of reasons; one of them that men I read negatively (the guy who enters a woman's porch after dark and refuses to leave after she tells him to? A jerk at best, a guy I'd call the cops on at worst, but _never_ a potential partner. etc etc.)
Of course the responsibility for a crime lies with the perpetrator. _However_, we - society as a whole - are creating environments in which certain crimes do or do not thrive. When we accept certain behaviours as normal, or 'slightly inappropriate' we create safe spaces for perpetrators and unsafe ones for victims.
Personally, I think it's important to portray healthy human relationships in a positive light in my writing, and unhealthy ones as problematic. 'Positive' does not mean 'shallow' or 'fluffy', just as 'negative' does not equal 'realistic'. I think I have a responsibility to encourage readers to question their attitudes - not to preach any one opinion as 'the only truth'.
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Of course the responsibility for a crime lies with the perpetrator. _However_, we - society as a whole - are creating environments in which certain crimes do or do not thrive. When we accept certain behaviours as normal, or 'slightly inappropriate' we create safe spaces for perpetrators and unsafe ones for victims.
Personally, I think it's important to portray healthy human relationships in a positive light in my writing, and unhealthy ones as problematic. 'Positive' does not mean 'shallow' or 'fluffy', just as 'negative' does not equal 'realistic'. I think I have a responsibility to encourage readers to question their attitudes - not to preach any one opinion as 'the only truth'.