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xenologer: Atheist "Evangelism": "Sometimes atheists talk about being atheists because it makes it easier for other atheists to be atheists. It's just like how some people talk about being LGBT because it makes easier for other LGBT people to be LGBT."

angelikitten: On dealing (or not) with gynaecological exams and PTSD; I'm linking to day view so you can choose which parts of the entry you want to read. (Content notes are above the cut)

pipisafoat signalboots Consentfest 2012.

yourlibrarian: I could use some help: "I plan to write an entry for the

month_of_meta on the topic of consent in fanworks vs. canon. What I'm looking for are examples that you've noticed in how each is dealt with in either a show storyline or a fanfic storyline, particularly if these differ within the same fandom (specific examples particularly welcome)."

anotherslashfan: Revisiting my fannish origins: my fannish history - the researched version: "About a year back I realised that while me learning of ZetsuAi/Bronze was the start of my yaoi-fan days, it wasn't really the starting point for my fannishness." - Particularly interesting because perspective of a German fan.

sharpest_asp hosts a love meme.

whatawaytoburn hosts a Confessions thread (trigger warning in original entry) where you can get things off your chests. This reply and ensuing conversation about kink-related shame (and being ashamed of feeling ashamed) then lead to...

Let's celebrate kink! Because why the fuck not?, also at

whatawaytoburn: 'You can do it anon if you like and you can say as much or as little as you want but the point is here that there should be no shame, no guilt for what you are into. You should dance in it, spin in it, be happy you enjoy what you enjoy, even if its dark, even if some people might look at you and say "Dude, that's fucked up."'

staranise

Thunderbird just scolded me for inserting an image into my email, but not giving it alt-text to describe its contents for vision-impaired recipients.

Crossposts: http://goldjadeocean.livejournal.com/1150533.html

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Posted by Amanda Downum

http://stillsostrange.livejournal.com/839396.html

I will endeavor to go without sweets (processed-sugary things) for the next 40 days. Inspired by

yuki_onna's unfucking project I will also endeavor to actually exercise for 30 minutes every day. Yoga, walking, climbing, whatever. My caveats are:

1. I have half a chocolate bar left in the pantry. I am going to finish it. Because wasting good chocolate is just dumb.

2. I will have a cupcake at my launch party. Because it is my launch party, and I am bringing cupcakes.

3. Cleaning the house for 30+ minutes totally counts as exercise*.

I may also attempt to sleep for under nine hours a night, unless a sleep deficit is involved. But I don't want to get too crazy too fast.

And now I'm taking my laptop to bed, where I will write 500 words of the story I have three weeks to finish. Like a m*therf*cking boss.

*This caveat is made because tomorrow will be a frenzy of housecleaning due to an imminent scary thing happening this weekend, which I will talk about later. Not the scary thing some of you already know about, though.

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Posted by Melissa Marr

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I'm midway into my annual anti-travel season. I take trips for family or writing retreats, but every year since I started this job, I've taken to adding "blackout" dates. There are some scattered throughout the calendar--the kids' birthdays (8 Sept & 14 Oct), the days around Oct 31, and Winter Solstice. Overall though, I try to be flexible. This is, in part, to keep my publishers from throttling me, but also because I like to do book events. While being flexible, I still am fiercely protective over this blackout date plan. I believe that to create, to live a life worth living, it is essential to have time to recharge, be with my family, stare in speechless awe at whichever natural vista lures me in, & generally refill the well. This refilling is as much a part of the writing process as revisions. Without it, I have nothing to say.

(Read more ...)

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amandadownum_feed

Posted by Amanda Downum

http://stillsostrange.livejournal.com/839072.html

I contemplate giving up something for Lent. But I'm not sure what. Something I like whose absence might be vaguely healthy. That means it's time for a poll!

View Poll: #1821020

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rachelmanija

I need recommendations for books which are likely to appeal to an 11-year-old who likes sf, fantasy, and the Alex Rider series, AND to a 10-year-old who likes mysteries and Lemony Snicket. To clarify: a single book must appeal to BOTH kids.

On a completely different topic, I double-checked with my Queer Narrative professor, and got an okay to do a fictional therapy session with a queer character from a historical work. He said to just insert myself-as-therapist into their historical context. I am leaning toward one of the heroines in Sarah Waters' Fingersmith. Lots of issues regarding social narratives, personal "stories," "problem-saturated narratives," queerness, and "madness" there! (I could also counsel them as a couple, but we haven't yet gotten into couple's counseling so I don't feel on firm ground with that.)

Crossposts: http://rachelmanija.livejournal.com/1018041.html

littlebutfierce

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liv

Author: Edmund de Waal

Details: (c) Edmund de Waal 2010; Pub Chatto & Windus 2010; ISBN 978-0-701-18417-9

Verdict: The hare with amber eyes is a fascinating and gorgeously written family history.

Reasons for reading it: My parents have been raving about this for ages, and presented it at their bookclub recently.

How it came into my hands: They talked me into borrowing their copy last time I was in Cam.

( detailed review )

So yes, I wouldn't have expected to get into this book, but I can definitely see why my parents were so excited about it.

Current Mood: touched
Current Music: Nitzer Ebb: Promises

lea_hazel

I ended up deciding not to take the test this afternoon, but the one in April. It's a fraught decision because:

On the one hand, less stress today, less disappointment about an almost invariably poor grade, more time to study for tomorrow afternoon (the test I care more about).

On the other hand, the April date coincides with the second chance test for microbiology, which is Sunday. I won't have enough time to study, and if I blow it, I'll end up with a mediocre grade even though I know and like the material, and probably for the most annoying reasons (test shenanigans).

On the third hand, the micro test is multiple choice, and animal behavior is open (and obnoxious) questions.

On the fourth hand, eventually I went home and took a great nap, and now I'm energetic and will probably study until late. I like this material much better so it exhausts me less to cover it for hours. Also my notes are in reasonable order and fairly informative.

If I score badly on this test I'm going to feel like shit. Fair warning.

Current Mood: ambivalent

bcholmes

firecat pointed this out: ritual for "genetic women only" at PantheaCon causes latest InterWeb drama.

Crossposts: http://bcholmes.livejournal.com/704205.html

marina

I am so goddamn tired of feeling frustrated by the debate club.

SO. GODDAMN. TIRED.

( For real. )

Crossposts: http://sabrina-il.livejournal.com/1261925.html

staranise

My paper is turning into un petit manifesto on social media, technology, and privacy. Largely: fuck "information wants to be free". We are losing privacy apace because people make more money if our information is public.

Also known as: I spent half an hour Googling all over hell to find Danah Boyd's talk on social media and privacy, and how PRIVACY IS NOT DEAD KTHXBAI. I could only remember three things about it--that it was given at SXSW, that it was about social media and information flows, and that it mentioned A/S/L as a social ritual programmers had misunderstood. It was hard to find!

It's kind of refreshing to talk about these issues, though a lot of my initial FREAKOUT was because my paper isn't like the published articles I was citing about psychology, ethics, and technology. That's because the published articles were saying, "OMG! Sometimes people hit "reply" and send their email to the WHOLE LISTSERV instead of one person!" and "OH NOEZ, I put a picture of me in a bathing suit up on Facebook and my client saw it and now it's all awkward!"

Dude. I grapped with--and got over--those issues when I was 14. Let's catch up, shall we?

Crossposts: http://goldjadeocean.livejournal.com/1150025.html

eumelia

One a month on a Tuesday I have an LGBT Feminist Reading group meeting. It is my happy place to go to where I can be all smarty pants and feel like my intellectual muscles aren't atrophying.

On Monday I get a call from my mother telling me I'm needed to babysit my niece (the one I nannied over the summer) because she's sick (her her daycare is closed, or both) on Wednesday and can I come the day before so that I can be at my sister's house bright an early.

And I was all... ugh.

I refused to miss my one a month happy place, so I got up at five this morning in order to catch the ten to six bus which would get me in time to the central bus station of my city to catch to bus back to my home town where my sister lives.

Soooooo, yeah.

I slept for four hours (I'm a night person, I go to bed around midnight - one am and later on a regular basis) and was out the door at twenty to six... and arrived at the station just in time to see my bus stop, see me run and shout at the top of my lungs to "Wait! Wait a minute!"... it drove off.

Regular readers probably know what I said out lout at that point.

Say it with me: "Motherfuck!"

Luckily a cab came by and I dished out the dough I can't really spare for the fare and I arrived at the central bus station in time to get the earlier bus to my home town.

Thankfully, it's an hour and a half ride down south so I napped and I arrived lively enough to entertain my niece as she ate and messed up her hair, face and shirt as she smushed yoghurt all over herself.

Ah, the joys of being jobless, available and living so fucking far away.

Current Mood: blah
Crossposts: http://eumelia.livejournal.com/573088.html

nicki

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yasaman

OH JOYOUS DAY, MY BELOVED COMMUNITY WILL BE BACK ON MARCH 15TH! MY WHOLE BRAIN IS CRYING. No lie, this absolutely made my day. Now I can just fret over whether or not we'll get a fourth season...But no! I won't dwell on sad possibilities, I will focus on the joy that is a full 23-episode 3rd season.

I was going to post some more about some other shows I like, but my enthusiasm for them pales in comparison to my pure and true Community love.

Current Mood: happy
Crossposts: http://yasaman.livejournal.com/394140.html

staranise

I'm supposed to be writing about ethical concerns for therapists when using the internet. It's going slowly for no reason at all. *pissed, mostly at self*

I've been lately loving

rachelmanija's own dispatches from therapist school. Her program's a pretty cool one. I kind of want a comm for therapists or proto-therapists to talk shop, but I also want it to be magically free of drama, narcissism, or grandstanding, which I keep seeing crop up in established communities.

My classmates seem not to have much contact with practicing therapists, except in the role of client or student, which seems like a shame to me. Getting to know experienced practitioners in one's area of interest seems to me like an invaluable source of wisdom and support. I've learned so much from therapists met by working with them, through blogging, or at conferences. If nothing else, I've learned the wide variety of attitudes out there. It gives me a compass with which to pick through what I learn and decide what to walk away with.

I would feel so lonely and helpless, looking at a whole world of work to do, if I didn't know I was one of a legion of committed, experienced, talented people.

Okay, there are also therapists who make me go "...Oh, wow, how did you graduate?" but thankfully they're more often ego-boosters than making me actively fear for their clients. I have never felt really afraid of making a public presentation since the day I sat through an entire hour of someone droning through a not-even-relevant-to-the-conference paper, pausing at the end of every slide of findings to say, "...Which was statistically significant." If that lady can do it, I definitely can.

*eyes her homework* Right?

I have a thread at

sharpest_asp's love meme. Because I might as well ask.

Crossposts: http://goldjadeocean.livejournal.com/1149493.html

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Posted by Amanda Downum

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I've slacked off on the weekly updates, which is probably for the best as progress has been slow. Progress is still slow, but I'm getting stronger again, and rebuilding stamina. I'm slightly less chickenshit on bouldering problems than I was a couple months ago, so that's good. I'm still not sending 5.10s again, but I can sail up 5.9s, so it'll come back.

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marina

So today I finally had a meeting with my boss regarding work plans and schedules and ~let's break this project down~ and all that shit.

As some of you know, aside from attending meetings when summoned, I've put in maybe an hour of actual work every day since I started this job.

My boss was very impressed with the stuff I've been able to do so far. He also said I should take the next 3 work days to research what it is I actually have to do and make a rough work plan in terms of how long I think it'll take me to do it. We'll meet again on Monday to discuss schedules and "what we can realistically expect you to accomplish in the short time left" until the beginning of April.

Also the website I'm supposed to content manage? The tools for building it don't exist yet. They're still in development. They should be ready "hopefully by early March". Btw, due to holidays, I'll be on vacation for about two weeks total between now and April.

Anyway so yes. My task for the next 3 days is to "research" what it is that I have to do. This means basically browsing the current uni website and matching it to the new uni website (which already exists in Hebrew) to ~triangulate~ which pages don't match/exist.

THREE DAYS.

Meanwhile, today the uni celebrated National Family Day, (renamed from Mother's Day, but we will not go into that rant) which will occur on the 23rd (and coincide with Soviet Army Day), so there was a giant free buffet for employees (it's the semester break right now, so students aren't around) and a concert, IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DAY, which everyone was free to attend. I didn't quite get what was going on - still no employee email >_< ugh logistically everything moves so fucking slow here - so didn't stay for the concert, but seriously. SERIOUSLY. Had so many oatmeal cookies *____* om nom.

On the way back my boss introduced me to some people who work for the University President (I'm still not sure what they do but my boss was adamant they were ~important~ for me to meet), and they asked me to introduce myself. After I was done they blamed my boss for hiring someone who makes EVERYONE ELSE LOOK BAD, lolol. One of them was like "damn, I double majored in Physics and Philosophy and I used to think *I* had it hard in undergrad..." LOL.

In other news, I've mentioned my giant office? Here's a phone pic of what it looks like from my desk. Bonus points if you spot the giant Bamba baby which stares at me routinely. Pros and cons of being next to the snack machines.

Crossposts: http://sabrina-il.livejournal.com/1261757.html

liv

j4 linked to a really fascinating essay about twee marketing a few weeks ago, and I've been meaning to talk about it. ( and now I shall )

I'm not arguing that giraffe bread causes sexism, obviously. I'm just having a bit of a click moment where several things fall into place, and I think there's an underlying theme that's worth highlighting!

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Current Music: Kate Rusby: Only hope

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